I don't know what I'm going to do. I've alluded in the past that my wife is sick. She's not been able to work since the very end of July. Today we found out that if she doesn't return by this Friday, she will lose her position. If she's not back by October 24, she'll be let go entirely.
There is a treatment for what ails her. We've been waiting 2 weeks for treatment to start. But a medication that is needed is in short supply nationwide. So we keep getting told next week. Always next week. If she had started two weeks ago, it is very likely she'd be back in shape by the 24th. Now.....
Stripped to the bone, my salary can cover our mortgage, bills and expenses. But if I need to pick up her insurance, since she covers the kids as well, there is no way we can make it. I'll be half a grand short every month.
OMG. I know this is supposed to be a running blog or a weight loss blog. But the stress I am experiencing is overwhelming. I want to eat everything in sight. The only thing stopping me is knowing I can't afford to.
Thanks for listening.
Reaching out when you are stressed is never inappropriate Kevin. I bet you will find lots of people that are willing to offer suggestions that might not yet have occurred to you.
ReplyDeleteMy only advice not knowing more specifically about wifelette's illness, is that you should check out the United Way website at http://liveunited.org Once there, enter your zip code in the top right box and it will take you to your local United Way website. Then, scroll down until you see the box/button that says "211" on it.
If you happen to be in Elkhart Country, for instance it will take you here http://www.unitedwayec.org/211/ At that point you can start to search for services that might help in their online database. Look in several different related categories. I volunteer at a church and get phone calls on a daily basis from people that don't know where to turn for help and I usually find them a few numbers through our local 211 database.
Wishing only good things for you and your wife.
You've got to get it out somewhere, and a blog is an eminently reasonable place for that. My husband's job was "in flux" for about two months (long story) and we're just now seeing some light at the end of that particular tunnel. It's not all settled out by any means and I'm totally freaking out about some stuff -- I don't do change well at all -- but I'm starting to let myself think we've rounded the bend.
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Hang in there. If nothing else, know there are tons of us out here who can relate to varying degrees. Also, it looks like Lanie has some good suggestions.
Hoping the best for you and yours.
And here you are, caught in the Catch-22 of having health insurance tied to a job, when sometimes one is so sick that the job is in jeopardy. I think of you all and wish I could solve it, and am hoping that the mercy of the medication comes through.
ReplyDelete@Lanie Paine thanks for the links. I've gotten some ideas that I can pursue.
ReplyDelete@Amanda I'm sorry that things are down for you as well. Hang in there.
@S&S With Catch-22 indeed. I could write a case study.
Thank you all for stopping by. One note of grace. A friend has offered to pay off our van (two months to go) to free up some cash. I can pay it back as I can. Wow.
This is the perfect place to get those feelings out...you gotta observe us women and see how we do it. The support is amazing and women are masters at providing it. I've got you all in my good thoughts...
ReplyDelete@Karen You know, I am a typical male. I've been keeping it built up for over two months now. Be strong. Be my wife's rock. But last night, it was too much. It broke me. I wept like a newborn. And it all came pouring out. And rather than overwhelm my wife like I thought it might, it seemed to comfort her...seemed to show her how much I empathize. I feel better. My head is clearer. I can't say I'm any happier, but a certain haze is gone. Thanks for stopping by.
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